I was on the phone with a dear friend recently, and 10 minutes in, our conversation turned toward… the doom and gloom of current events.
We centered on a topic both of us were equally passionate about…and no surprise: Both of us fervently disagreed, and left the conversation “disagreeing to agree.”
I usually enjoy debates. I always have. I’m genuinely interested in learning human behavior — and I love to practice verbalizing my views out loud with people I know will still love me if my words don’t come out right. Then, when I need to express myself in a situation where it matters, I make an impact!
In this specific instance, for whatever reason, I thought I was being a good listener… but as I reflected that night, I realized I was ultimately hoping to change my friend’s mind. (And I definitely didn’t achieve my goal.)
Disappointment is a sneaky byproduct of attachment, isn’t it?
Cue the holiday season! Are you ready for the onslaught of awkward parties, family feuds, and gift exchanges where you plaster on your best smile to pretend to love a gift you don’t need (or want)?!
Joking aside, let’s be real: We are likely to find ourselves in rooms with lots of folks we love (or don’t love) in the next few months… and we will likely find it difficult to communicate at times.
So: How do we relate to people, from the perspective of yoga?
My teacher in India always says that the same person who approaches a problem cannot be the same person who finds a solution. Meaning: The aspect of ourselves that feels “bummed” or “stuck” in our interaction is missing the entire point. We must literally rise up — above the desire to change someone else’s truth… and step into a more aware version of ourselves, where we stop expecting anything in return. Only from that place does the problem disappear, and we can exist without trying so hard.
Easier said than done! I wasn’t able to do this with my friend — and that’s why we talked in circles for 90 minutes with neither of us backing down from our position.
But that’s why it’s called a yoga practice.
Instead of dreading the emotional turmoil of our final months of 2022, I invite you to consider joining me in “coping ahead.” Coping Ahead is a technique I’ve learned where we identify potential (or certain!) stress on the horizon, and instead of walking into the fire unprepared, we prepare ourselves ahead of time to reduce that stress. To me, this seems both logical, and simple, no?
And this time, I think I’ve got you covered:
The Yoga of Relating
A three-week online course
to prepare you for easeful interactions
with just about anyone.
Starting November 7th, you’ll get a lesson from me each Monday about a strategy from yogic philosophy designed to help you navigate crucial conversations — alongside sneaky yoga practices you can use in the moment to stay grounded and connected with your true self, no yoga mat required!
My Soulful Sadhana courses are always $27 week — making this course just $81. But as a newsletter subscriber, sign up before November 1st with the code RELATE to save $22, and own the course for just $59.
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Originally hailing from Wisconsin, Mollie is a cheesehead transplant to Northwest Montana, with degrees in Retail and Journalism from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. Today, she lives off the grid, half the year in a Tiny House & half the year in a yurt — both of which she and her husband, Sean, built by hand. Nonprofit Executive Director by day, Mollie also owns and teaches at Yoga Hive — a chain of community yoga studios in the valley.